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The Importance of Non-Judgment

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YUSEF:

We expand now to describe the importance of non-judgment.

The ego thrives/feeds on your judgment of yourself, others, and life situations and circumstances. In this way you are kept from thinking and acting in more loving, accepting ways as you encounter life each day.

Can you see the difference between judging another and accepting another? When you ACCEPT yourself, others, and circumstances, there is nothing to resist, nothing to “fight.” You are accepting what IS. (And it cannot be other than what it is.)

If you could live each day in this way, accepting what life brings, you would have room in your awareness and in your life for love and compassion, joy, and peace.

You would begin to SEE DIFFERENTLY. Seeing the world without judging it would change your life from one of constant anxiety or un-ease (the “other” may be a threat to you) to a peace that is in tune with the flow of life. Fear is a block to the possibility of acceptance.

Acceptance of what life brings allows you to remain on your path for this lifetime. What are you here to do, to learn, to teach, to share? With acceptance, your life would be in the flow of your divine path—unblocked by fear.

Realizing the importance of non-judgment, and having a sense of the peace it brings does not diminish its difficulty in this age of the runaway ego telling you to be afraid.

Pay attention to the large and small judgments you make each day and you will have a sense of the task.

Begin by noticing. Then replace judgment with acceptance. This will have an effect on your life and on the world. Judgment is a block to love. Acceptance is Love in the language of God.

We are with you.

Yusef

Catching Up, and Judgment

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B—Well, I have been unfaithful lately in getting Heaven’s messages out on this site. I resolve to do better. I have been told not to edit—that is to make decisions about which messages to post and which ones not to post. You will be getting all the stuff now. :)) Some of what you read will be my conversations or questions or just my journaling/musings. I will follow the guidance to post and may Spirit (God) speak to you through whatever you are reading. As always I encourage you to comment or email me with any questions you may have. Blessings today! Barbara

Nothing is as we think it is. We have mental constructs—ideas given to us long ago when we were small—that we cling to, believing that what we have been told is reality, when actually everything that we THINK is real is a part of the dream, or the play, (God and) we have created in order to experience the physical world. I play the roles of wife, mother, sister, teacher, grandmother, aunt, etc. and these have been marvelous, incredible, sometimes difficult, amazing, and fun. But I know that the true I, my true Self, is much more than these.

I am told that if it comes from our thinking MINDS it is a dream. For instance, what about RIGHT and WRONG? These are a mental constructs that cause us to believe or think or judge certain things or people in the world. In another age, another culture, the ideas we have been given about what is right and wrong could be just the opposite.

So Yusef, how do we live without the “guidelines” of rightness and wrongness for instance? How can we tell what is true?

Yusef: Let go—of all you have learned about rightness and wrongness. Let go of JUDGING EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE. Begin to see the world as is IS. Look through the eyes of LOVE and COMPASSION and you will begin to see differently. Without judgment God can be present. 

B—This  could take a lifetime.

Y—We  understand. (Smile)

Guidance From Yusef: Perception Can Be Tricky

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We are cautioned about our perceptions today. The current meme is “What we perceive, we believe.” Well, that’s a bit scary since our perceptions are not necessarily based on reality. And we so easily believe what our perceptions tell us.

For example, when we watch news footage of acts of terror in another country our emotions may cause us to perceive that WE are in imminent danger also. The response is fear for our own safety. That perception—that we are in danger—may then influence all of our emotions and actions and predictably cause us (unnecessary) stress. I like the quote from Michel De Montaigne who lived in the 16th century and said, “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Today we are told that 80-85% of what we fear never happens. Good to remember.

Or we may make judgments about a person based on incorrect perceptions from our senses (what we see or hear) that seem real, but those perceptions later prove to be wrong.

The heavens are telling us to be cautious and to question our perceptions, judgments, and  beliefs. Are they real? Or are they generated from fear? Fear that may or may not be realized.

YUSEF: Become aware of your perceptions. Perceptions are based on information/data [that is] collected over time through [your] experience. That experience is filtered through a belief system that has its own vision and tradition. It is not reality.

Therefore, judge nothing. Question everything. Do not attach to, or identify with the ideas of the world. These will mislead [you].

Go calmly instead, trusting the guidance of the Angels and Spirits. What you cannot perceive through the senses often has more validity than the senses. Trust these [senses] not; all information coming in from the senses is filtered through the biases [you were] taught [from a young age]. Do not succumb to fear. Do not judge. Trust. 

 

Guidance From Yusef: 8 Things I Know About Judgment

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Barbara

First a Note: Judging others or events in our lives as good or bad, right or wrong, appropriate or inappropriate, holy or unholy, safe or unsafe seems to come naturally to us. A few examples of this judgment are: blaming, anger, disdain, eye rolling, shaming, name calling, or insisting that my religion, my country, and my ideas are the only right ones.

8 THINGS I KNOW ABOUT JUDGMENT

#1 I know we are taught (is conditioned too strong a word?) to judge. We are taught by well-meaning parents, family, religion, culture, and society to judge anything that is different from the rules and norms they  have passed on to us. We learn to “see” the world through the lenses they give us. And we learn the lessons well.

#2 I know that we judge so easily because judgment comes naturally to our human ego. The ego is that voice inside that reminds us to stay within the boundaries we’ve been given. It says that if others don’t look, think, dress, believe, worship, or act like us we must be wary of them. The ego also judges us—as not competent, unworthy, or unlovable, or even as better than everyone else.

#3 I know that we don’t see the world as IT IS. We don’t see the world as it really is—as if we were looking through the non-judgmental lens of a video camera capturing a scene. Instead we see the world through the lens of our biases. We think the way we see the world is the right way. We don’t question whether our biases are correct, or even notice that we’re judging others.

#4 I know that we judge the world as potentially dangerous. Taught to judge the world as potentially dangerous, we take measures to protect ourselves and our property. We have locks, guards, alarm systems, and passwords. We carry arms and secure our borders. These actions further isolate us from each other.

#5 I know that judgment comes from fear. Judgment points to our fears about something—safety, security, belonging, criticism, self-esteem, abandonment, and so on. We judge automatically and without thinking—and we’re not even aware that we carry these fears deep down. Most of our fears however, are much worse than the actual events in our lives. Often what we fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.

#6 I know that judgment and love cannot exist in the same moment. If we are passing judgment on another person, no matter how slight, we cannot be loving them in the same moment. Judgment is the opposite of acceptance, appreciation, and love. It separates us from one another. We judge without acknowledging that everyone has their own reason for what they do.

#7 I know there are ways to re-program our automatic judgmental reactions! It IS possible to change our learned judgmental responses. There are steps we can take to become more aware of the biases we hold. We can move from judgment to understanding, and from fear to trust. We can begin to see that we’re all in this together and there truly is goodness in the world.

#8 I know that what we put out into the world we will get back from the world. If we are fearful, judgmental, and see others as threatening, we will react in ways that will threaten them. As long as humanity continues to judge in fear there will be unhappiness, war, terrorism, violence, and turmoil in the world. When we learn to come together in trust rather than judgment we will have the potential for a peaceful planet.

 

Note 2: Please be assured that I  know there are valid reasons to feel fear and determine a situation as dangerous. We have natural instincts that alert us when we, or those we love, are threatened with bodily harm, whether it be from a speeding car, a growling dog, while driving on an ice covered street, or from a person threatening us with a weapon. In these situations we revert to our instinctive responses to survive. But these life situations are not judged as good or bad, fair or unfair—they just are. So listen to that inner alarm and call 911, don’t go near the dog, and be careful on that slippery ice!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Guidance From Yusef: Change your thoughts to change your world

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Norman Vincent Peale had it right when he wrote in his book, The Power of Positive Thinking, that when you “change your thoughts…you change your world”.  Yusef asks us to be mindful of our thoughts and actions because they live forever in the Universe.  (Whew!)

It is also our thinking and our actions that create the life we are living right now. (Whew, again!) Of course the thinking comes first, followed by action, so we are back to the quote above.  As much as possible, it is important to think loving, positive, non-judgmental thoughts.  That means toward ourselves, others, and the challenging situations in our lives.

To help us stay positive we’re encouraged us to surround ourselves with others who are of like mind.  Remember it’s not only the positive that impacts us, but the negative as well.

YUSEF:

Think carefully.  Act with thoughtful consideration, with the knowledge that the action will impact now and forever all in the Universe.  This seems improbable and impossible.  Actually it is a fact and worthy of attention.

You and your body are reacting constantly to the thoughts and actions in your environment.  All affects all.  Be mindful of the energy surrounding you.  Remove yourself from negative or draining energy.  Place yourself within energy fields that support your growth.

Remove all negative thoughts and worries and doubts.  Live only in Love and in the Light.  This will take effort and letting go of long held notions regarding reality.  This is most important, and worth the effort to remove negativity from your own thinking and action, and from your environment.

 

Guidance From Yusef: We “Judge” Ourselves

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I asked Yusef about the absence of judgment from the Universe.  He reminded me that we humans continue to cling to the idea of a separate Divine Being, or God, that judges us or bestows mercy upon us.  And that’s the issue—our belief that God is separate from us.  God is not separate from us.

We are one with a God that is only Love.  To “judge” us, God would have to be separate from us and punitive which is a human concept, not the divine reality.  God can only be Love.

We do have the freedom to choose our actions but accountability comes with that freedom.  We will lovingly “judge” ourselves when we pass from this earth, by reviewing what we’ve learned in this lifetime, and how we have grown in Love.

YUSEF:
There IS a review of efforts expended on Earth.  There is an accounting of the good accomplished, an account of the soul’s growing.  And there is great love around that.

The heavens rejoice at obedient servants’ behavior.  Obedient to the [life] plan designed.  There is much value individually and for all.  Note, when we speak of obedient, we refer to the “syncing” of your decisions, choices, and actions with the reason [purpose] for the incarnation. Do not put another connotation to the word used.  It is your obedience to your own plan that brings the greatest good for yourself and all.

The review of our efforts and actions is not the same as the threatening, punishing “judgment” that many religions put forth.  Rather, we experience a review of what was learned in the lifetime.  We are reminded that WE planned this lifetime and the more we can follow that plan, the more we will benefit.  Some call the life plan the “will of God”.  More on how to recognize it later….